Meekness

No Meekness Without Might: What We Learn from Christ’s Gentleness

By David Mathis

“Fall on us and hide us from the face of him who is seated on the throne, and from the wrath of the Lamb, for the great day of their wrath has come, and who can stand?” (Rev. 6:16–17).

It’s a stunning glimpse of divine judgment. A sixth seal is opened. The earth quakes, the sun goes dark, the moon turns to blood. Stars fall, and the sky is rolled back like a scroll. The earth’s kings and “the great ones and the generals and the rich and the powerful . . . hid themselves in the caves and among the rocks of the mountains” (Rev. 6:15). So terrified are they at “the wrath of the Lamb” that they call to the mountains and rocks to fall on them. They would rather be crushed to death than to face omnipotent wrath.

Did you do the double take? Excuse me, “the wrath of the Lamb”—the Lamb being Jesus Christ? How’s that? We know Christ to be gentle, meek and mild. Who would cower before him like this? Before God the Father, of course, we expect that. But Jesus?

Those of us who love that he is gentle and lowly need not be afraid to rehearse that his wrath is horrific. To know the sovereign power and unmatched strength of Christ—and the sheer terror of those who realize they have opposed him—will both keep us from misunderstanding his gentleness and make his remarkable gentleness all the more impressive.

Gentle and Lowly

We dare not minimize the portrait of Christ in Matthew 11:28–30 simply because many are at home with this emphasis today. This is a penetrating self-revelation from Christ himself—and all the more if he is sovereign and strong, and his wrath is terrifying:

Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light. (Matt. 11:28–30)

It’s no accident that these words have been greatly celebrated. Such an invitation, from such a person, is precious beyond words.

And his gentleness toward his people is all the sweeter as we learn what sovereign strength lies beneath it. His gentleness doesn’t replace his sovereign strength; rather, it cushions the application of his great power as he marshals it in service of his weak people.

In a day when we seem increasingly aware of the danger of other people’s power and strength, it’s vital that we see this in Jesus, and throughout Scripture. The answer to the dangers of strength isn’t its loss, but the godly exercise of power in gaining the Christian virtue called gentleness.

Gentle Rain

Take rain, for instance. Hard rain destroys life, but “gentle rain” gives life (Deut. 32:2). Violent rain does harm, not good. The farmer prays not for weak rain, or no rain, but for gentle rain. The means of delivery is important. We need water (to support and give life) delivered gently, not destructively and not too meagerly. Gentle doesn’t mean feebly but appropriately—giving, not taking, life.

The answer to the dangers of strength isn’t its loss, but the godly exercise of power, in gaining the Christian virtue called gentleness.

So also, “a gentle tongue is a tree of life” (Prov. 15:4). Gentle doesn’t mean weak but fittingly strong, with life-giving restraint—giving something good not in a flood but in due measure. Or consider wind for sailing. A gently blowing wind answers a sailor’s prayer (Acts 27:13), while a violent wind spells trouble (Acts 27:18).

In the Old Testament, the virtue of gentleness is best seen in God himself, who “comes with might” (Isa. 40:10). How does he wield this “might” toward his people? Next verse: “He will tend his flock like a shepherd; he will gather the lambs in his arms; he will carry them in his bosom, and gently lead those that are with young” (Isa. 40:11). Violence is the destructive use of strength (Isa. 22:17); gentleness its life-giving exercise.

Strongest Men Are Gentle

When the apostle Peter contrasts good power with bad, just rulers with unjust, he describes noble leaders as “good and gentle” (1 Pet. 2:18). This is no celebration of puniness. The opposite of a crooked master isn’t a weak one—who wants the protection of a weak lord?—but “good and gentle.” We want gentle leaders, not weak ones.

We want leaders with strength and power not used against us but wielded for us. Which is what makes the image of a shepherd so fitting, and timeless, in both the Old and New Testaments. Sheep are manifestly weak and vulnerable. So they need shepherds who are good and will use their power to help them, not use and abuse them. We need strength in our shepherds, with the added virtue of gentleness.

Weak men are often preoccupied with feigning and talking about their strength. Truly strong men give their energy and attention not to parading their strength but to demonstrating gentleness to those in their care. They’re able to rightly exercise their manifest power for others’ good. Insecure men flex and threaten. Men who are secure in their strength, and the strength of their Lord, aren’t only willing but eager to let their gentleness show (James 3:13), and even be known to all (Phil. 4:5).

Weak men are often preoccupied with feigning and talking about their strength. Truly strong men give their energy and attention not to parading their strength but to demonstrating gentleness to those in their care.

It should be no surprise, then, that Christ requires such of the leaders in his church (1 Tim. 3:3). Gentleness isn’t optional but essential in Christian leadership. “As for you, O man of God, . . . pursue . . . gentleness” (1 Tim. 6:11). True gentleness in the pastors not only gives life to the flock but also models for the flock how it can give life to the world (Titus 3:1–2). How different might our discourse have been in 2020 if our strongest voices had been gentle?

Gentleness Himself

In the end—whether as congregants or pastors, whether as men or as women, husbands or wives, fathers or mothers, bosses or employees—genuine biblical gentleness is formed and filled by God himself in Christ. When we admire his gentleness, we don’t celebrate that he is weak. Rather, as his feeble sheep, we enjoy that not only is our Shepherd infinitely strong, but he is all the more admirable because he knows how to wield his power in ways that give life to, rather than suffocate, his beloved.

Mighty and meek, Christ came not as a domineering and abusive King but as a good and gentle Lord. He descended gently into our world in Bethlehem, grew in wisdom and stature in Nazareth, taught with toughness and tenderness in Galilee, and rode into Jerusalem “humble, and mounted on a donkey” (Matt. 21:5) to lay down his life.

Mighty and meek, Christ came not as a domineering and abusive King but as a good and gentle Lord.

And he summons us still today with the invitation that takes nothing from his power, but only adds to what makes him remarkable: “I am gentle and lowly in heart.” So, we, like the apostle Paul, both receive and also seek to imitate “the meekness and gentleness of Christ” (2 Cor. 10:1).

Admire His Mercy—and Might

The day is coming when the wicked would far rather quietly pass out of existence than stand before the omnipotent Christ they’ve scorned and rejected. His sheer strength and power will terrify them. But not so for his people. We’ll love his strength and admire his power.

We’ll glory that he has made us his own and wields all authority in heaven and on earth for our deep and enduring joy—and he will lavish it on us forever in the life-giving proportions of true gentleness.

David Mathis is executive editor at desiringGod.org, pastor of Cities Church, and adjunct professor with Bethlehem College and Seminary in Minneapolis, Minnesota. He is the author of The Christmas We Didn’t Expect. You can follow him on Twitter.

posted at: https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/article/christ-gentleness/

Meekness Assessment

Questions adapted from Martha Peace

Are you a meek person?

Am I more likely to think “This makes me angry!” or “What might God be doing in this situation”?  Proverbs 19:11

What would more likely come to mind - “Love is patient.  I can respond in a kind way and give glory to God.”  or “This irritates me!”  1 Corinthians 13:4-7


Which describes how you typically react?  Sighing and withdrawing in anger and frustration or in gentleness trying to help the other person to understand?  Colossians 3:12-13

  1. Do you stop and ask yourself before responding…

    1. Why am I angry?

    2. What reason is there for all this emotion?

    3. Should I be so strongly reacting because of such a sudden provocation?Philippians 2:3-5, 1 Timothy 6:11


  While angry, do you ever reveal secrets, slander, make accusations, use reviling language, call names, or take God’s name in vain?  Titus 3:1-2


Are you more likely to play angry thoughts over and over in your mind or give the other person a blessing by praying for them?  Ephesians 4:31-32


Do you insist on clearing yourself when unjustly accused or do you entrust yourself to the One who judges justly?  1 Peter 2:23


Is it easy for you to acknowledge your error or do you insist on vindicating yourself?  1 Peter 5:5


Will you listen to someone’s reproof of you even if they are your inferiors (such as your child) or do you blame them?  Psalm 37:5-8


Do you struggle with anxiety and anger during or before your menstruation period and allow it to affect your words and actions?  Colossians 3:8-17


Do you think calm thoughts or are you in inner turmoil?   James 3;13


Do you deal gently with others showing patience and compassion or are you hard and unforgiving?    Colossians 3:13, Philippians 4:5


Do you enjoy life and love life or do you dread each day and fret and worry?  Philippians 4:6-7


Are you easily provoked or slow to anger?  Proverbs 31:26


Are your thoughts calm and rational or do you sometimes overreact to circumstances?  Ephesians 5:2, 1 Peter 2:11-12


Do you show compassion to fellow servants or exact payment for sins?  Matthew 18:21-35


Are you hasty with your words or do you take great care to think about how you respond?  Ephesians 4:29-30, James 4:1


Do you use anger, threats, or manipulation to those under your authority or do you give instruction in love?  Psalm 106:32-33


Do you err on the side of mercy when correcting those under your authority or are you harsh?   Psalm 103:8, 14


Do you grumble and complain at your present circumstances that disappoint you or are you grateful to God for what He is doing?  1 Thessalonians 4:11, Phil 4:12


Do you assume that others are intending to criticize or harm you or do you assume the best of others unless proven otherwise?  1 Cor 13:7-8


Are you becoming more aware of times when you are not gentle with others and when you are disputing with God?  1 Cor 10:12


When it is necessary to reprove another person, are you likely to lash out impulsively or more likely to gently try to help them to turn from their sin with goodwill, soft words, and objective arguments?  Galatians 6:1


Do you brood and become angry when you are persecuted for your faith or do you rejoice that God counted you worthy to suffer for His sake?   Matthew 5:11-12


Are you envious of sinners or do you place your trust in God?  Psalm 73:21-28


Do you become aggravated or frustrated with God over your circumstances or do you have great joy in serving Him on His terms?  Isaiah 45:9, Proverbs 19:3





Three Ways Meekness Fuels Peace

Andrea Lea

Joy Davidman, C.S. Lewis’s wife, wrestled with huge trials throughout her life—all the way to her early death from cancer at age 45. She learned there’s a big difference between saying to God, “Your will be done,” and, “Fine, have it your way.”[1]

When we are confronted with circumstances outside our control, we are tempted to an angry resignation: “Fine, have it your way.” But a trusting humility before God and His ways fuels deep peace. This gentle submission, otherwise known as meekness, is an unexpected but important way to fight for peace during trials.[2]

If you are anything like me, the trial that is COVID-19 has spotlighted some cracks in your life. And as life-disruption wears on, the pressure may be making these gaps more obvious. It’s tempting to think that demanding more control in key areas will generate peace. But true peace doesn’t come from a sense of control. Peace is fueled by meekness, the quiet submission of our souls to God and His will. Here are three ways to grow in meekness so peace can flourish in our homes and hearts:

The Meek See the Choice

The meek realize they have a choice in how to respond when their desires are not met. They don’t lash out in anger and complaint. They know they can turn to the Lord in prayer and thanksgiving instead of turning to grumbling and self-pity.

Jude, the brother of Jesus, describes people who don’t see this choice as “grumblers and malcontents” (Jude 1:13, 16).  They seem to believe they have a right to complain and rage when they don’t get what they want. They choose to follow their own sinful desires instead of following God in trust and thanksgiving.

We grow in meekness when we see we have a choice and move toward God in prayer instead of tossing out harsh critiques of God’s ways. Prayer can compose our souls and bring us into submission to God’s path, even when we are uncomfortable and inconvenienced. The childless Hannah struggled with irritation and despair as her husband’s second wife constantly taunted her. She longed for her barren circumstances to change. She poured out her trouble and grief to God. And before God answered her prayer, her soul was quiet because she knew God had heard and was with her (see 1 Sam. 1-2 and Ps. 62).

The Meek Reject Self-Righteousness

The meek recognize the slippery slope of self-righteousness that disrupts peace in hearts and homes. They see how their haughty hearts are quick to find fault and are easily outraged when their plans are disrupted. They know they are prone to excuse their irritability by pretending their idolatrous desire for order and control is noble.

The meek fight for peace by rejecting this self-righteous irritability. As we turn to the only Righteous One, we see our patient God who freely gives us a clean record and a warm welcome long before we are perfect (Rom. 5:1-5; 8:1; Col. 2:13-14). So, in imitation of Him, we can overlook the faults of others, or we can gently reprove without anger or clamor (Eph. 4:31). The meek reject the pride that claims to know best and to always do what’s right. Instead, the meek extend gentleness and grace because they know the One who graciously forbears with them even though they are beset with weakness and sin (Heb. 5:2).

The Meek Embrace Patience

Oxford’s English Dictionary defines patience as the “capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering without getting angry or upset.”[3] The meek accept trouble and hardship for one fundamental reason: they recognize that God is the Author of their circumstances (Isa. 45:7). God really does work all things according to the counsel of His will (Eph. 1:11; Job 42:2)—even when we don’t see how things could possibly bring glory to God and even when we are in pain (Isa. 46:10; 2 Cor. 1:8-9). When we trust God’s goodness and power, we can patiently endure the circumstances He has ordained. God gives the grace to patiently bear trials as we fix our eyes on His steadfast love and discipline ourselves to trust Him.

During this season of uncertainty, circumstances seem engineered to disrupt our plans. But growing in meekness can fuel our peace even when our preferences and desires remain unfulfilled. We can calmly see the choice we have to trust and give thanks, to reject self-righteousness, and to embrace patience. No matter what the day holds, we can say with peace, “Your will be done.”[4]

Question for Reflection

What passages from God’s Word are fueling your peace during this pandemic season?

[1] Patti Callahan, Becoming Mrs. Lewis (Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 2018), 161.

[2] For verses on meekness see: 1 Peter 3:4, 3:15; Titus 3:2; James 1:21, 3:13; Galatians 5:23.

[3] Oxford English Dictionary, “Patience,”  https://www.lexico.com/en/definition/patience (accessed 5/14/20).

[4] For an excellent treatment of meekness, see Matthew Henry’s The Quest for Meekness and Quietness of Spirit (Eugene, OR: Wipf and Stock Publishers, 2017).

Andrea Lee

Andrea Lee serves as a biblical counselor for women at Mount Vernon Baptist Church in Atlanta, GA. She has a Masters of Arts in Biblical Counseling from The Masters University. Andrea has been married to her husband, Darien, since 2006.

Posted at: https://www.biblicalcounselingcoalition.org/2020/07/27/three-ways-meekness-fuels-peace/